Counselling is a process where you can talk to a trained Counsellor privately about difficult feelings, thoughts and experiences, which are causing you conflict, and affecting how you are coping with your life today. Often the initial issues presented are depression, anxiety, stress, trauma, low confidence and relationships. Some people may not know what is bothering them but have a feeling of disconnection. It might be that you feel you have had low mood for too long or are not being kind and compassionate to yourself. In my experience, once people have a deeper understanding of themselves and feel comfortable with their Counsellor, other unexpected issues and feelings may come up that are more uncensored and may never have been said to anyone including yourself. You will be fully supported at your own pace with this often powerful process.
I work in a Person Centred way, but i do at times integrate other tools to assist with the counselling process. For example, I may introduce a discussion on coping strategies or mindfullness, as a way to relax if this is appropriate. There is no 'one size fits all' approach to therapy. This is about meeting your specific needs and putting you at the centre of our work together. I offer a warm, safe and empathic space which is non-judgemental, to support you to process and understand what things mean to you, giving you a better sense of self, accepting all of you.
Building a therapeutic relationship where you no longer need to pretend that things are ok is very important to me. You can bring all your different parts to the room, even the ones that you don’t like, which may bring up feelings of shame that often don't belong to you, but to an experience or person. This shame may lead you to be self critical, holding you back from being yourself, and block what you want to do in life. I will help you to make sense of the pieces of your story, which can be complex if some feel lost, scattered and hard to reach.
I strive to be real with you too, and compassionate with what I hear, helping you to face issues. However, I will make you feel emotionally held respecting wherever you are at in your process. I might challenge you from time to time, asking questions, noticing when there might be repetitive behaviours and thought patterns, which have been harmful or unproductive in the past. I will always encourage your real way of being to emerge, and for you to be empowered to make choices to improve your situation and feel in control.
The counselling journey can be hard work and there are no quick fixes. Whilst I have extensive counselling experience, I am not the expert of you. I can’t give you all the answers or tell you what to do, this comes from you. All of your feelings are valid, and I will never say you are wrong. We may look at different options or suggestions, which might be productive and helpful for you. I trust that you will move towards change and growth in the way you need to, using your inner resources.